Most people fall back asleep by keeping the lights off and staying off their phones. But you can also get sleep through activities, such as:
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Refraining from checking the clock.
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Breathing slowly.
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Staying in bed for 20 minutes.
If you’re still awake, move to a quiet space and do something calm. Let your body unwind. Focus on rest, not sleep. This is how you get back to sleep naturally.
Middle-of-the-night wakeups hit hardest when your body’s tired but your brain flips the switch. Maybe it’s 3:12 AM. Maybe it’s every night.
Either way, what happens next determines whether you return to rest or spiral into frustration. This guide breaks down what works, why it works, and how to make it work tonight.
Why People Wake Up in the Middle of the Night
Sleep doesn’t always run on a perfect script. Even a small shift in temperature, light, and noise can break the rhythm. That doesn’t mean something’s wrong. But it helps to understand what’s throwing things off.
That said, here are some of the reasons you are waking up at night.
1. Natural Sleep Cycles
Sleep moves in 90-minute waves, not one long stretch. Most people come up to the surface a few times a night without realizing it. If something feels off during that light stage, the brain stays alert. That’s how a normal rhythm turns into a full wake-up.
2. Bathroom Interruptions
Older adults or people who hydrate late in the evening often wake up to pee. That quick trip becomes a problem when it jolts the system all the way awake. Bright bathroom lights, walking too long, or glancing at the time all tell your brain, morning’s here.
3. Temperature Fluctuations
The body sleeps best in a cool, steady environment. A warm room, heavy blankets, or night sweats can trigger a mid-sleep disruption. Cold drafts can have the same effect.
4. Mental or Emotional Load
Stress doesn’t clock out when the day ends. It sneaks in through dreams or leaves tension in your muscles. A racing mind or a tight jaw can break the flow of rest before you even realize what’s happening. The more pressure you carry, the lighter your sleep becomes.
5. Cortisol and Blood Sugar Swings
Cortisol starts climbing in the early morning. It is what helps you wake naturally. So, when it spikes too soon or too sharply, sleep gets cut short. Blood sugar crashes from a light dinner or sugary snacks can do the same. This is a body rhythm problem, not a willpower one.
6. External Disruptions
A dog bark, street noise, or restless partner can snap your brain into gear instantly. Even a small sound at the wrong moment can yank you out of sleep. Once the senses activate, they don’t always go quiet again.
Why You Can’t Fall Back Asleep After Waking
Falling asleep the first time is usually easier. After waking up, the brain gets more involved, and the body becomes more reactive. A few small triggers can keep you stuck in that wired-but-tired state. These are the ones that show up the most.
1. Racing Thoughts
The mind starts running through conversations, unfinished tasks, and things you can’t control. These thoughts are active and fast, which keeps the brain stimulated. Sleep doesn’t return when the mind is in motion.
2. Anxiety Spike
Anxiety often shows up at night, even if it felt manageable during the day. It raises cortisol, tightens the chest, and makes your heartbeat feel louder than the room. That reaction tells your body to stay alert.
3. Bright Light
Light triggers the brain to stop making melatonin. Even a short burst from a lamp or screen is enough to send a wake-up signal. The body reads that signal and starts preparing for the day. The more light you see, the more alert you feel.
4. Clock Pressure
I know the temptation to check the time. This simple action adds urgency that works against sleep. You start doing math, thinking about how little rest you’ll get. That thought loop increases stress and keeps you on high alert. Sleep doesn’t happen while you're counting down.
5. Early Cortisol
Cortisol levels rise before morning to help you wake up. Sometimes they rise too early, especially if you're stressed or your blood sugar drops. That hormone shift creates a sense of alertness even when you're exhausted.
6. Wrong Bed Association
The brain connects environments with habits. If you lie awake in bed too often, the bed becomes a place for thinking, not sleeping. That pattern builds over time without you noticing.
Tips to Help You Fall Back Asleep
The trick is not to force sleep. That never works. The goal is to set the right conditions so the system resets on its own.
Here are strategies to give you options that work in the moment, without needing meds or rituals that only help eventually.
1. Ignore the Clock
The moment you check the time, you stop being present and start doing math.
That mental spiral kicks up stress, and stress pulls you further from sleep. The brain shifts out of rest and into countdown mode, which sends a low-grade alert signal through the body, enough to keep you hovering in the wrong gear.
So, do these instead.
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Don’t check your phone to see what time it is. The light and the time both work against you.
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Turn the clock around if it’s in your line of sight. Even the soft glow of the numbers can pull your attention back to the pressure.
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Remove it from the room entirely if you tend to fixate. Out of sight really does help the nervous system stay quiet.
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If you accidentally see the time, don’t start predicting how bad the next day will be. Let that number mean nothing.
2. Keep the Room Dark
Light tells your brain to start the day. Even a short flash from a bathroom bulb or your screen is enough to disrupt melatonin and spark alertness. Stay in the dark, or use a dim amber light if you need to move. Let the body believe it’s still nighttime.
3. Leave the Bed If You’re Fully Awake
If you stay in bed too long while wide awake, your brain starts building the wrong association. That mental link becomes a pattern, and patterns repeat. The longer you stay in that state, the more wired you feel.
You can do the following.
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If you’re not drowsy after ~20 minutes, quietly get up.
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Move to a dim, quiet room, where there is no phone, no TV, or no overhead lights.
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Sit in a chair or lie on a couch. The goal is comfort, not entertainment.
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Come back to bed only when you feel sleepy again.
4. Do Something Familiar and Boring
The brain craves stimulation when it’s awake. If you don’t give it something harmless, it’ll drag in work stress, past regrets, or your grocery list. That’s how 20 minutes turns into 90. Instead, give the mind something gentle to rest against.
Pick a low-effort, neutral task.
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Fold laundry slowly
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Read a boring paperback
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Sit with a warm drink
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Trace something with your fingers (woodgrain, blanket edge, etc.)
5. Let Your Breathing Set the Pace
When everything else feels out of your control, breathing is one of the only levers you can pull from the inside. Slow, steady breaths tell your nervous system no danger here, it’s okay to let go. That message takes a minute to land, but when it does, sleep may follow it.
This is what that looks like in practice:
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Inhale through your nose slowly
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Hold it for a beat
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Exhale longer than you inhaled
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Do this 5–10 times with no goal but rhythm
6. Change the Scenery If You Feel Stuck
Sometimes the room itself becomes a trigger. You’ve tossed, turned, and tried all the tools, and now the space feels wired. That’s a sign to break the loop.
This may be the perfect time to change your environment and shift your nervous system enough to try again.
Do it in any way that doesn't wake yourself up more.
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Grab a blanket and go to a dim, quiet room
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Sit upright or lie down somewhere new
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Avoid anything stimulating. This can be lights, media, or problem-solving
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Let stillness return before heading back to bed
Natural Remedies to Help You Sleep
Think of these as quiet nudges in the right direction. They can help support your body’s return to sleep.
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Magnesium helps settle the nervous system and ease muscle tension. It’s one of the few supplements that shows up consistently in real-life sleep routines that work.
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Chamomile, passionflower, lemon balm, and rooibos all carry calming properties without caffeine. A few slow sips in dim light can help tell your system the night is not over.
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CBD can take the edge off anxiety and help quiet the mind. A small, clean dose is usually enough if it’s going to help. It works best when the rest of your environment is already pointed toward rest.
How CBD Can Help
CBD won’t knock you out. That’s not how it works, and if that’s what you’re expecting, you’ll be disappointed. But when used properly, at the right time, and in the right environment, it can reduce the things that prevent sleep.
What keeps most people awake after they’ve already gone to bed is their own nervous system. The mind is racing, the chest is tight, and the pressure to fall back asleep fast creates more wakefulness.
CBD, when taken in low doses, can help take the edge off that state.
This works best when you are already in a dark room. The phone’s out of reach. You’re not scrolling, problem-solving, or watching the clock. You’ve already stopped trying to force it, and now, with CBD, you’re easing your system into neutrality. That’s where sleep can happen again.
What to know before using it…
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Start small. Most people do best in the 5–10mg range. But bigger is not better, either. In fact, higher doses can make some people groggy or overstimulated. So start small and adjust slowly.
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Use clean products. Look for broad-spectrum or isolate formulas from brands that show third-party lab tests. Avoid sleep blends packed with melatonin or other mystery ingredients.
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Use it as support, not a fix. It should accompany dim light, calm breath, stillness, not screens, scrolling, or stress.
How to Prevent Night Wakings Before They Happen
Middle-of-the-night wakeups don’t always come out of nowhere. They often start with what you do two, four, even ten hours before bed. If you want to sleep through the night, or at least fall back asleep easily when you wake, this is where the work begins.
Keep Blood Sugar Stable
One of the most common (and overlooked) reasons for night wakings is a dip in blood sugar. That dip triggers cortisol, and cortisol wakes you up, sometimes with a jolt, sometimes subtly. Avoid heavy sugar or alcohol in the evening.
And eat a balanced dinner with protein, fat, and slow carbs to give your body what it needs to stay steady overnight.
Cut Off Caffeine Early
Caffeine hangs around longer than you think. Even if you can fall asleep fine after an evening coffee, it often shows up later as light sleep or restless early waking. Stop caffeine at least 8 hours before bed, 10 if you’re sensitive.
Protect the First Half of the Night
The most restorative sleep happens in the first 3–4 hours. If that time gets disrupted. by texts, noise, alcohol, or mental clutter, it’s harder to stay down for the second half.
Train the Brain to Trust the Bed
The more time you spend in bed awake, the more your brain rewires the association. Tossing, scrolling, or overthinking tells your system the bed is for activity, not sleep. So be disciplined. If you’re not sleeping, get up. Come back only when you're ready to drift.
Let Sleep Find You Again
Middle-of-the-night wakeups are not failures. They’re signals. Here’s what to hold onto when you're wide awake and looking for the off switch:
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Your body still knows how to sleep. It’s built in. You’re not broken, but overstimulated or out of rhythm.
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You don’t need more effort. You need less pressure
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Stop treating the night like a problem to solve. Let it be quiet.
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Control what you can, and let the rest go. You can’t force sleep. But you can invite it.
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